Ok, so today I may need a bit of feedback from some of my followers because I would really like to hear your point of view.
I happen to have a very nice mother-in-law and as much as I appreciate her, at times we seem to butt heads. The thing is, I don’t like depending on anybody else except my husband but if we do need assistance, we can always go to her and ask and she’ll help as best she can. However, when it comes to our daughter, I know she’s our responsibility so I don’t ask anybody(including her grandparents) to assist because I like doing it myself.
Apparently this is a problem for my mother-in-law as she feels that we don’t include her in anything. Firstly, to me, even though she’s my family, my husband and child will always be first. Secondly, I don’t see how certain things concern her. For example, we went to register Keke the other day for school and this morning she’s telling my husband that we didn’t show her the booklist….I mean I don’t see that being any of her business so I didn’t and still don’t see the need to show her. We did tell her however that in the event of an emergency if neither of us can make it to pick K up that she may have to pick her up. She sees this as us needing her conveniently….
I’ve never shied away from my responsibilities and I always wanted to drop and pick up my child(ren) for myself so when she told my husband a couple days she’s gonna take vacation so she can take K to school as I go back out to work I was puzzled 😕. She then said my hubby told her I was gonna do it and she said if that’s how we gonna be moving she’s not gonna pick her up any other time…. brrr uuhhh ok then….. I then proceeded to tell her that the same way she says we make her feel a how, she also makes me feel a type of way because it’s my child and I shouldn’t have to feel anyhow because I WANT to do certain things with her… I mean at the end of the day she already raised her 2 sons so I don’t see the problem….. I get it! I get that she wants to be involved but like I told her, at times I feel as though she’s pushing herself into things before anyone even asks her.
I don’t ever assume that because my child has grandparents that I can just drop her off whenever and go about my business because they have lives too. Mums is also famous for ASSUMING. She assumes everything and half the time she’s wrong so that alone upsets me!! And she’s also quick to say we does do we ting and don’t include anybody(which I see no problem with because we’re a team(husband and wife) and we don’t need to include anyone if we don’t want too. All of this is why I would like to leave and get a place of our own, I cannot take people in my business, telling me what to do and if I don’t do things their way, is a problem! I answer to no one! But due to certain circumstances we’re there….
Plz give me some advice in the comments. I really look forward to hearing what you guys think. Am I wrong? Am I being selfish? I just don’t know and I guess I’m trying to find gyre out if I’m the only one like this.
One more thing… I’m a very funny person so I don’t really like K going out with anyone except her dad and I by herself that is. If we’re all going with the person it’s not a problem but when it’s just she and her granny or uncle I get worried. Again i ask… am I wrong? Am I over doing it?