Personally, I find nothing is wrong with disciplining YOUR CHILD but some people have it to say that it’s abuse. I think that everything should be done in moderation, hence the reason it’s said not to beat your child in rage because you can damage him/her.
However, if you choose to not spank your child and just punish them alone, that’s fine too. Whatever works for you is what you should do but not because that’s your decision means you have to talk badly or judge the parents that choose to beat their child(ren).
I also believe that the reason society is the way it is today is because parents didn’t take the time to discipline their kids when they were younger. They allowed things to get out of hand and now society has to deal with it. I’m not saying to rain licks on your child but correct him/her when they’re wrong. Don’t let things slide. Let your no be NO! Teach them to be polite and shower them with lots of love because they need it. Lack of love can also be a reason they act out as they become an adolescent and eventually adult. The sad thing about it though is the parents that are trying their best with their kids have to worry about their kids being victims of bullying.
Do the right thing for your children. Don’t turn a blind eye because you worry about them liking you and if you discipline them they’ll say things like they hate you. In time they’ll get over it and thank you. Be their parent first and friend after!